How do you know you've found the one

Hahaha, I know my title sounds like a hundred thousand articles you have already read. Actually I got inspired to write this post because lately those are the posts I see on every social page or magazine article. Anyway everyone is giving their opinion of what they think makes a perfect mate, or rather let me say partner, mate sounds so procreationary :)

Anyway this blog post doesn't reflect anyone else's but my own opinion, feel free to dispute it though, share your thoughts or suggestions.
Well let's get on with it then, so relationships are work, very hard work well because it consists of two imperfectly flawed beings trying accept and cohabit with each other regardless of the flaws. Its two people saying "hey I hate the fact that you're messy and it irks me but I'm willing to deal with it and be with you". It is such a beautiful thing though, because through the irksomeness you find yourself in a place where you can be as comfortable with someone and bare your soul without worry. Ah the wonder and utterly baffling thing we call love. Anyway I digress....

How do you know you have found the one? Well too many times we think we have found the one and it turns out to be another frog in the great pond of life that you had to kiss and learn lessons from. I believe in soul mates, its a weird sentiment I know, but I do. I believe though that your soulmate is the person that you meet in life and brings you so much wonder and makes you see the a whole new side of the world. The mere thought is unfathomable. But the fact is that it happens. So back to the actual point of this post, how do you know you've found the one? Well the butterflies fade eventually but if you still have that weird thing we call chemistry that's awesome, because when the butterflies do fade the chemistry that you shared will light the spark between you and your mate to bring the butterflies a-fluttering back. Respect and communication, a partner who respects you for everything you are. Communication is essential, its right up there next to friendship because real friendship grows based on mutual interests (or dislikes) a true friendship will stand the test of time, I suppose that's why people always say that friends make the best lovers. Anyhoo my next essential point is trust, a relationship without trust is sadly doomed to fail, the insecurities and the hollowness that you feel if you're in a place where there is no trust is just a waste of time and energy, its like trying to grow something beautiful on a rocky, weed infested patch of land.

Chemistry, trust, respect, communication, friendship and of course love. When you are loved unconditionally, honestly and wholeheartedly with no holding back then you know you have found the one. We are a generation of fickle-minded people always looking for the next best thing, never satisfied and not willing to take the time to nurture something special and true. There is always love lurking around, there is always your "one" out there.

Until next time I shall leave you with

Peace, Love and Happiness
Ellie

First post for 2015

Wow, first post of the year.... I know I know its February already but I guess it's better late than never.

So any new resolutions? Well this year I dont really have all that many resolutions, unlike the long unrealistic list I had last year (which didn't work out quite so well). Anyway my resolution this year is to be a better person, follow my instincts and be more assertive in life. That's the only way one can make their dreams come true I think.
Well heres to the new year, new me type of thing.

Oh, also its the month of lurvee Oooh lala. The hinting and the expectations begin, the biggest bunch of roses, biggest box of chocolates and the biggest bear, the shiny thing in the store. But why must we wait for valentines day for the extravagance of romantic getaways, dinners, picnics and gifts? What happens the rest of the year? Don't get me wrong; I'm not a hater of valentines day I really just prefer to show my significant other love all the time, spontaneously with little gestures throughout the year. In the end valentines day is valentines day after all so one is allowed to also get swept away in the spirit of the day.

Its is important though to remember that it's not just about the gifts, its not just about receiving, its about giving, sharing and remembering the love that you and your significant other share for each other, rekindling those fires and just making your love stronger.

Love each other all day, everyday...

Peace, love and happiness
Ellie